First off, if you are fixated on being right all the time, read no further. Nothing I’ll share here will sway you. Go on being right, and good luck with that mindset in fruitful, meaningful and lasting relationships!
If you are moved to create meaningful relationships without attachment and dependency, and you’re willing to admit you might not be right all the time (maybe just silent self-acknowledgement), then this little write up is for You!
I really don’t need to say much further, I already revealed the winning formula. For a great relationship, don’t try to be right all the time. Ohhh, and here’s a big one: Be willing to set your Ego aside even when you know you are right, to allow others to sometimes have their way, while you remain silently at peace.
Truth be told, we base our “rightness” on our own limited lifetime of experience. While some may believe they’ve learned and seen everything there is to be seen and learned in the years they’ve accumulated, I promise, they still don’t know it all.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not telling anyone to NOT STAND UP FOR THEMSELVES. But it’s a rare occasion when that is so vitally important that it must be done. I’m also NOT telling anyone to let others take advantage of them. I’m also NOT telling anyone to belittle themselves. Just because some are willing to let others “be right” doesn’t make them wrong. It simply makes them a peaceful, easy-going presence to be around.
Understand that when it comes to relationships, it’s two worlds colliding and inter-mixing. Its two different belief systems molding into one, attempting to create a black and white reality out of a gray mixture of LIFE. Go easy with the process. Be gentle, be understanding, listen more than talk sometimes and see what happens.
There’s no greater reward than the realization in hindsight that you’ve avoided a tumultuous argument by simply letting go of the need to be right and being open to more than your own perspective.
We are all trying to make sense of the world to the best of our ability. And we are all striving and hoping to be understood and accepted. When we let down our guard, our “righteous wall,” we’ll magnetize others into our life that want we you have.
It’s always been interesting to me that listen and silent have the same exact letters.
Listen, and whether you are right or not, exercise your choice with the intention to create peace and understanding. It’s a lot better than walking away from a fight you’ve won, feeling high and mighty until you realize the only reason you feel high and mighty is because you made someone else feel small and feeble.
Be the better/ stronger person.
Win at relationships by making the commitment to create Peace rather than being Right.